lay out intentions like paving of ease in future moments. “i’m gonna have fun in class tomorrow”, “when i go for a walk i’m gonna see so many beautiful things”, “i’m gonna have the most cozy night tonight”, “i’m gonna be very present with my friend on wednesday”, etc. see how easily the moment adapts. it’s like a little spell to set yourself up for goodness
I know you, I caress you, I fail you.
“The saddest thing that can happen to a person is to find out their memories are lies.”
— Juan Gabriel Vásquez
(via goodreadss)
In order to make a relationship last, you really have to flow with a person as they change. Give them space. My friend always told me about his grandfather who was with his wife for 60 years before she passed. His grandfather said that through all that time, his wife changed so much it felt like he had been with 8 different people by the end. But he said the secret to making it last was that through all those changes, he never suffocated his wife with his own idea of who he expected her to be. Rather he loved, fully, every new woman she became.
the greatest skill a woman can learn for herself is self reliance
to clarify … so many strong women in my life rely on men. that dependence is dangerous. ladies here are some good ref resources I’ve found helpful on my journey towards self reliance
automobile
plumbing
electrical
home
this list is in no way comprehensive feel free to add on
a lot of ‘man things’ are a lot easier than you think they are. especially considering the fact that most of these things when buying the parts come with directions on the packaging that men usually don’t even look at (and often end up doing it wrong because they were taught by fathers who also did not look at the packaging).
like i recently had to change my car battery and freaked out cause i thought id electrocute myself but turns out new batteries come with directions and its the easiest shit in the world so long as you can lift the damn thing.
so yeah, ladies dont ever feel like a man is a necessity for life, you can do this shit on your own its easier than you think!
You can learn nearly anything from youtube; they have instructional videos for anything imaginable.
I learned to spin and make baskets there, as well as put up drywall, mud and sand it, install windows, and roof. Am currently watching pottery and flint knapping tutorials.
it’s no joke, YouTube is the self-education utopia libraries wanted way back when it was less feasible to have a big repository of video clip how-tos. however: always cross-examine like two sources to be sure you’re getting info that isn’t viral simply bc its funny how wrong it is. i fix literally everything i own using YouTube including fine electronics
“I am afraid. Of what? Life without having lived, chiefly.”
— Sylvia Plath, The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath (via books-n-quotes)
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